Being a first time mum you hear the word ‘routine’ a lot, whether it’s from the midwife, the health visitor, or your parents, this is something I have struggled with from the beginning. Before Emma, I was always late to everything (I still am sometimes!) and I took ages to get ready, but having a baby forces you out of your old bad habits and makes you create new habits and routines. I think to make the best routine you have to figure out what’s right for you and your baby.
I would love to be able to get up at 6:30, have a shower, have breakfast, tidy up and get Emma’s breakfast ready all before she wakes up, but truthfully I am just too tired! I have done it a few times, but only because I have naturally woken up early so I got up to have a cuppa in peace, but usually when she wakes up, I wake up. I am sure this will change when Emma is at school and I have to make sure we are ready and out of the house at a certain time.
I always sit with Emma while she is having her breakfast, which is generally Weatabix or another type of cereal as she loves it, and we watch Peppa Pig or Ben and Holly, then I make a cup of tea and chill for a bit, then we get ready for the day. I like to sit Emma down at her little table with her stickers, get her toys out or put a movie on for her while I do a few bits around the house, you know really fun things just for me like, washing up, clothes washing, hoovering, just fun things like that! Then we are off out somewhere. Its probably not the most organised of morning routines but it works for us!
This one was the hardest for me just because Emma is great at forcing herself to stay awake! Which obviously is great for me….not! After reading as much as I could about bedtime routines and listening to my friends who have babies I just though I’ll do a mix of all the different things I have learnt. We generally have dinner about 5:30 and then Emma plays for a bit while I tidy up, then I used to get all her things ready for her bath and bed and read her a story with the lights low and some relaxing music on, but now she is just so hyper she won’t sit still for story time anymore so I tend to just put her in the bath, then if I can I will read her a story after her bath. She still has a bottle of milk before sleep as she absolutely loves it, not really sure how I am going to slowly stop that, or if you are meant to stop it?! Then I put her to bed, and on a good day I will only have to go back in to her room once or twice but more often than not its a good hour of battling to get her to sleep! When she was much younger the struggle was real, it was 2 or 3 hours of screaming before bed, it really drove me crazy, it was just absolutely impossible to get her to sleep. Luckily (I’m touching wood whilst typing this!) she is out of the screaming phase and now she is just sassy so it is a bit easier to manage! I love Lavender and I use a lavender pillow spray on my pillow before I sleep and I do that for Emma as well, I like to think it helps, but some nights not so much!
When she is finally asleep I would love to have chill time, have a bath, or just watch rubbish TV, but I still have to cook dinner and tidy up, so I generally don’t end up sitting down until 9:30, so I always end up going to bed far to late, but what mum doesn’t do that! We crave for those couple of hours to our self, just to chill, right?!
What do other mamas do to relax?