This is a phrase I have struggled with since becoming a mum, “at least you don’t work”, or “Yea but you don’t work”, or “you’re so lucky to have all this time to yourself”. I get it, the pictures and the videos look like we are having the best time and to be honest we are, but it’s also extremely hard work. The days out and the mummy meets are great fun and are always beneficial to Emma, we always go to a ‘baby-friendly’ place, with a kids menu, a playground or soft play are and better yet, animals! So you can imagine the grown up talking is very much limited by interruptions from our little ones. I am so grateful for my mummy friends, to have someone you can talk too and who are going through everything at the same time as you is so comforting and lets you know you are not alone in this incredible journey. Being a mum is definitely a full time job, I generally start my day early and don’t sit down until 9:30 at night, on a good day, and we also have to take into the account the amount of time Emma wakes up in the night, so when someone says to me “at least you don’t work”, it’s confusing because, actually I do work! Motherhood is the hardest but best job of all.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my ‘job’ and count my lucky stars that I get to wake up with this little beauty everyday, however, there is no instruction manual or training guide before your baby comes into this world, there is no one to tell you just how hard it is or how lonely it can be at times, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Emma is 2 now and I do two days a week of work to cover the cost of her nursery, but I am getting to that time now when I am thinking should I be working more now? What do other mums do at this point? I know circumstances are different for everyone and some mothers have no choice but to work to support their family and they, for sure, have the toughest job of all! I have all the respect for the single mums out there who are doing it all on their own, girl power!! A few single mamas I am following right now are Mama_unexpected, Thesinglemumsdiary, and Everthedaring such a bunch of inspirational mamas 🙂 They have shown that even facing adversities they blossomed and have become the best mums to there little babes.
Raising Emma has literally been the best thing ever, it has definitely had it’s ups and downs but I wouldn’t change a single thing, as long as she is happy I am happy.
Thanks for reading,